If there were an Olympics in over thinking, I’d be up there representing Great Britain. My ma would call me a ‘whittler’ – someone who spends way too much time worrying over daft little things that probably won't lead to the end of the universe. Even still, I can’t help but think into things way too much, stressing about if so & so thought I meant something in the wrong way, or if life would be better if I’d taken another A level (?!). You know the sort. From big concerns to miniscule, I can work myself into a whole internal debate about most things.
I’m pretty sure that over thinking is common – I guess switching your own brain off can be tough. So, with working on a happier, healthier me, I thought I’d share with you a few ways I’ve been beating the battle of overthinking…
Occupy your mind.
For times when I really can’t block out what I’m concerning myself about, I’ll try to occupy my mind with other things. From sitting down with a colouring book to heading to the gym with some ridonkulously loud music on, I find it’s a good way to take the focus off what it is that’s bugging you. Even just settling down to paint some fiddly nail design can help me break the cycle of overthinking.
Blurting stuff out can be hella therapeutic. It’s sort of exhausting, having all this stuff whizzing through your brain, so sharing it with someone who’s happy to listen can help ease the stress. Sometimes, you just need to tell someone all those irrational thoughts you’ve been having, and have them give you that ‘you need to chill/drink a glass of wine face’. I find that’s comforting, and does help me to realize when I’m being a bit over the top.
Completely. Zone out to the land of zero worries. I know, easier said than done, but I do try switch off to really make my over working mind chill out. I tend to do this with some of that naff meditation stuff you can find on YouTube – I say naff, but I actually find it’s really helpful. I’ll stick a candle on, find a good meditation video and do that whole ‘concentrate on breathing thing’. It sounds a little odd at first, but I do think it works.
Shout at yourself.
Okay, maybe don't do this out loud when you’re walking down the street. When I’m on my own, I may actually shout at myself a little (the occasional ‘LALALA’ isn’t too mental, right?!), but I’ll also do it internally, telling myself to quit it. Sometimes I just need to think ‘stop thinking about that’. If it helps me avoid worrying if Harry from finance caught me having a good old readjust of my bra then I don’t care if it sounds a bit bonkers. I’m a firm believer in giving yourself a good talking to. Your inner voice can be as equally powerful as it can be destructive (welcome to Cringeville, but it’s true).
Right, I’m hoping that’s not too preach-y and is actually of use to any of fellow over thinkers! I’m pretty sure I’ll always be a worrier, but I feel much better when I’ve got it under control!