BLOGGER PEER PRESSURE
It’s always been my problem in blogging – doing what I think I need to be doing, rather than what I want to be doing. There’s the huge pressure to conform and do what all our blogger goals are doing, when in reality there’s space for way more variety. Feeling like you need to live up to your peers can be restricting – you bust your balls to try live up to something that can feel unachievable, and it’s exhausting.
I was tired of trying to make my blog like others, trying to constantly up my game and trying to do absolutely everything in blogging. I wanted to be smashing every platform, when in reality I was spreading myself thin, being pretty average across the board. So, priorities needed to alter. This is how I worked out what actually mattered to me…
FOCUSING MORE ON ONE THING = HAPPINESS
First up was the spreading myself too thin thing. I WORK FULL TIME. I bleat on about it loads, but it’s such a big deal. If you’re a 9-5er still trying to manage a half decent blog – get yourself a wine. It’s fucking hard, and you’re trying to work on a par with people doing it as a job. It’s been my choice to carry on working, but it doesn’t mean it’s any easier.
Previously, I was trying to cram in a video a week, four blog posts and two Instagram posts daily, while maintaining a sunshine and rainbows attitude on Twitter. I’ve now taken a break on YouTube, I’m mainly focusing on Instagram stuff and I’m still trying to blog twice a week. YouTube is something I’d love to get back to, but it’s so time consuming and difficult to actually get anywhere… I was running myself into the ground spending my weekends editing videos alongside everything else, and it was gutting if I didn’t have time to get it to the standard I wanted. With Instagram being the place I mostly find inspo, it made sense to make it the thing to put my efforts into.
PRIORITISE WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU
Has it impacted me hugely? Nope. I still work on plenty of fun blog projects and I feel like if anything, the whole ‘growing my blog’ thiiing is working better. Instead of doing 10 things not very well, I’d rather do a couple and get them right. Once I’ve achieved what I want to in one area, I’ll shift my priorities and include other things. Basically, I prioritised my sanity over being a blogger. I did my best to quit thinking ‘yeah but so and so is doing this and that’ and did what worked best for me – allowing myself free time alongside creating the sort of content I like to share/look at.
I think what I want out of blogging has changed a lot too. Personally, I don’t really enjoy blogging events or press trips. I’ve appreciated being able to do that sort of thing, but I’m not desperate to do them again – it’s just not for me! It’s quite nice to have come back round to loving simple blogger perks… I like the odd makeup freebies and being able to pay bills, but there’s a lot that doesn’t interest me as much. Press trips and luxury blogger events are nice here and there, but they aren’t my priority.
So, here’s me in an inappropriate British summer outfit alongside a bit of a blogging rant. I’ve come to enjoy sharing outfit details with some chatty stuff… I may struggle to relate blogger-feels to why I’m wearing a stripey t-shirt, but what the hell! Blog ownership is such a big deal, after all, it’s your blog to share what you wish. Getting bogged down with priorities based on what other folk are doing makes life difficult. If you’ve got a blogging goal, it’s way easier to achieve when you’re happy with how you’re reaching it.
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